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I am seeking help to get out of an abusive marriage, my husband and I are both retired military. He is mean to me and my children and now 5 days before x mas he told me to get out of his house.We are renting both of our names are on the lease he told me to leave and that I better not take anything out of the house. I am in NC and I need help to get away from him before he kills me

As I sit here looking at my children I find it hard to explain why we will not have x-mas this year. How do you tell them it is because you are still waiting on your disability rating from the VA. So tired and really I am to the point that I don't care about alot that is happening in my life because there is absolutely nothing I can do. In Fayetteville NC wishing I was not here at all I honestly think life would be better for my family if I die at least they would have my life insurance.

I write this letter with hopes that someone who reads this will have a heart and do something. I am a retired veteran who attends the Fayetteville VA hospital. I have had my rights violated and have tried to talk with the director of the VA hospital I even requested a formal investigation to be done by Washington through my congressman and nothing has happened except my va claim has come to a complete stand still. Retaliation I think so. I don't understand how I can be transported to the hospital to Emergency and then have a VA cop write charges on me for parking a car illegally and I was not driving, who was well it was a 24 year disabled retired Veteran driving his vehicle but somehow you say DMV gave you my name and address wow my 2 year old could have caome up with a better lie. so I took it to my congressman with all the proof that it was a false report(so much JAG would not even let it go to court they dropped it) and the cop oh he still works there laughing at me when he sees me Talking about abusing power.Now my compensation claim is stalled on someones desk awaiting a decision since August 8. Did the request a phone inquiry and it was ignored. It is amazing to me that a woman can be raped in the military and when they gey out the system rapes them all over again. Men still run it all and if you try to fight for your rights they stone wall you just violating you all over again. Then to and injury to insult you send me emails about what you are doing for veterans, I didnt get my retroactive stop loss cause no one in Fayetteville knew or at least that is what I was told and My TSGLI claim oh my primary VA doctor told me ther VA doesn't do these( but you are my doctor) I could not even get them to accept my records from Ft Bliss claiming it was too much to send. Around and around we go and you wonder why Veterans are homeless and why they are committing suicide? Please stop spending money saying you are gonna do right by veterans and just do it. Stop paying all these so called helpers at the call center for the VA what for to stall veterans and give the people working the cases more people to help solve these claims. Its sad when you go to war just to come home and realize I helped fight your war and now I have to fight another war to be able to survive with my children. Oh yeah and your retirement pay for soldiers who get hurt but don't have 20 years or more is the Slap in the face and Stab in the back it gives me about $574 but because the VA gives me a little over $400 right now I get a whole $100 from the Army and I am supposed to live off of that. I can't work anymore and this is what you call supporting the veterans, where is my support OH Yeah sitting on someones desk in WInston-Salem VA STILLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL waiting for a decision.... I sit around and on nights like tonight I wonder if I was to go stand in front of the VA and kill myself will that make it easier on my children maybe then the government will see that my benefits come so my children can survive. So I ask this to you all When you sit at you expensive tables in your big houses and parade around on TV in your nice clothes and you are making these budgets to keep the rich richer and the poor poorer, do you wonder where you would be if I were you and you were me? I DIDN'T THINK SO.
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To the attention of:

Barack Obama, US President;
Beverly Perdue, Governor of North Carolina;
US Senators from North Carolina: Kay R. Hagan, Richard Burr;
US Representatives from North Carolina: Brad Miller, David E. Price, G. K. Butterfield, Heath Shuler, Howard Coble, Larry Kissell, Melvin L. Watt, Mike McIntyre, Patrick T. McHenry, Renee L. Ellmers, Sue Wilkins Myrick, Virginia Foxx, Walter B. Jones;
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I write this letter with hopes that someone who reads this will have a heart and do something. I am a retired veteran who attends the Fayetteville VA hospital. I have had my rights violated and have tried to talk with the director of the VA hospital I even requested a formal investigation to be done by Washington through my congressman and nothing has happened except my va claim has come to a complete stand still. Retaliation I think so. I don't understand how  I can be transported to the hospital to Emergency and then have a VA cop write charges on me for parking a car illegally and I was not driving, who was well it was a 24 year disabled retired Veteran driving his vehicle but somehow you say DMV gave you my name and address wow my 2 year old could have caome up with a better lie. so I took it to my congressman with all the proof that it was a false report(so much JAG would not even let it go to court they dropped it) and the cop oh he still works there laughing at me when he sees me Talking about abusing power.Now my compensation claim is stalled on someones desk awaiting a decision since August 8. Did the request a phone inquiry and it was ignored. It is amazing to me that a woman can be raped in the military and when they gey out the system rapes them all over again. Men still run it all and if you try to fight for your rights they stone wall you just violating you all over again. Then to and injury to insult you send me emails about what you are doing for veterans, I didnt get my retroactive stop loss cause no one in Fayetteville knew or at least that is what I was told and My TSGLI claim oh my primary VA doctor told me ther VA doesn't do these( but you are my doctor) I could not even get them to accept my records from Ft Bliss claiming it was too much to send. Around and around we go and you wonder why Veterans are homeless and why they are committing suicide? Please stop spending money saying you are gonna do right by veterans and just do it. Stop paying all these so called helpers at the call center for the VA what for to stall veterans and give the people working the cases more people to help solve these claims. Its sad when you go to war just to come home and realize I helped fight your war and now I have to fight another war to be able to survive with my children. Oh yeah and your retirement pay for soldiers who get hurt but don't have 20 years or more is the Slap in the face and Stab in the back it gives me about $574 but because the VA gives me a little over $400 right now I get a whole $100 from the Army and I am supposed to live off of that. I can't work anymore and this is what you call supporting the veterans, where is my support OH Yeah sitting on someones desk in WInston-Salem VA STILLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL waiting for a decision.... I sit around and on nights like tonight I wonder if I was to go stand in front of the VA and kill myself will that make it easier on my children maybe then the government will see that my benefits come so my children can survive. So I ask this to you all When you sit at you expensive tables in your big houses and parade around on TV in your nice clothes and you are making these budgets to keep the rich richer and the poor poorer, do you wonder where you would be if I were you and you were me? I DIDN'T THINK SO. 

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I am just returning from believe it Pet therapy and me being an animal lover I wanted to really see the affects of it and how they differ from when the pets come visit you in the hospital. Wow, now I know the key to my sanity is to have my own pet preferably a small dog. Does anyone know where I may get a pure breed small dog that is not gonna kill my pockets (still waiting on my disability to start back). If there is a breeder who will give me one it would be a blessing for me and my family. I promise that the dog will get the best love any animal could hope for. I am well aware of what it takes to care for a dog. I bought an AKC registered boxer and loved that dog with all my heart, I trusted my ex to send in the registration and later after returning from Iraq (he gave her to his parents and they had her fixed and microchipped while I was there) so needless to say I lost my dog (ANGEL!!!!) but at least my kids see her when they go to visit the grandparents and when I go she still sits at my feet and follows me everywhere. Sorry I am rattling on again anyone who can help me to get a small dog that is still at least under 9 weeks will be a Blessing.

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To the attention of:

Barack Obama, US President;
Beverly Perdue, Governor of North Carolina;
US Senators from North Carolina: Kay R. Hagan, Richard Burr;
US Representatives from North Carolina: Brad Miller, David E. Price, G. K. Butterfield, Heath Shuler, Howard Coble, Larry Kissell, Melvin L. Watt, Mike McIntyre, Patrick T. McHenry, Renee L. Ellmers, Sue Wilkins Myrick, Virginia Foxx, Walter B. Jones;
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Help what do you do when as a soldier you are denied the right to have medical care needed to help you have a stable life, by being given a Written Direct Order from my chain of command that ordered me not to go to my Outside Doctor approved by the Military and the Hospital, which I requested because the Military Doctor was violating my HIPPA(a mental health doctor) and telling my Commander my business without my say so. And then the military refused to rate me in my MED Board for the disorder Completely ignoring the regulation about the 8 year rule and now they are trying to push it under the rug again. Well enough is enough I was raped in Iraq and when I tried to get help I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder and then to add injury to insult they tried to chapter me for Adjustment Disorder which I fought but the Military has just went in and changed the way they do things so they can screw Soldiers and Veterans I tried getting help (even wrote the President's Advisors and I can't even get a reply). Please someone help me because I choose to serve my Country and from what I can tell the ONLY WAY to get help from MY COUNTRY is to move to another COUNTRY or BE A BIG BUSINESS. Don't think just cause they make it look good on TV that the Military is taking care of Soldiers THEY ARE NOT and then yesterday I got told to file it with VA. So wake up America I am an African-American female, that was diagnosed with cancer in 2009, since coming back from Iraq I now have Bipolar Disorder, PTSD,Asthma, Severe Headaches, Allergies, Broke my wrist and 6 years later still have days were I can't even use my arm. this is what the US Army did for me put me on TDRL, no exams for 5 years (THEY BLAME ME) mind you I have been repeatedly hospitalized for everything Bipolar Disorder, Cancer, etc. in a VA hospital but the Govt. says they didn't know where I was(RIGHT sounds like and excuse to me). so basically the military can violate all your rights and instead of protecting you they cover up their Shit and protect the ones that hurt Soldiers Mentally and Physically AND I CAN'T DO ANYTHING BECAUSE IT IS ME VS THE US MILITARY. Thanks to my country for destroying my life by sending me to war and now you help the poeple you sent me to fight but DONT HELP ME.

Help what do you do when as a soldier you are denied the right to have medical care needed to help you have a stable life, by being given a Written Direct Order from my chain of command that ordered me not to go to my Outside Doctor approved by the Military and the Hospital, which I requested because the Military Doctor was violating my HIPPA(a mental health doctor) and telling my Commander my business without my say so. And then the military refused to rate me in my MED Board for the disorder Completely ignoring the regulation about the 8 year rule and now they are trying to push it under the rug again. Well enough is enough I was raped in Iraq and when I tried to get help I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder and then to add injury to insult they tried to chapter me for Adjustment Disorder which I fought but the Military has just went in and changed the way they do things so they can screw Soldiers and Veterans I tried getting help (even wrote the President's Advisors and I can't even get a reply). Please someone help me because I choose to serve my Country and from what I can tell the ONLY WAY to get help from MY COUNTRY is to move to another COUNTRY or BE A BIG BUSINESS. Don't think just cause they make it look good on TV that the Military is taking care of Soldiers THEY ARE NOT and then yesterday I got told to file it with VA. So wake up America I am an African-American female, that was diagnosed with cancer in 2009, since coming back from Iraq I now have Bipolar Disorder, PTSD,Asthma, Severe Headaches, Allergies, Broke my wrist and 6 years later still have days were I can't even use my arm. this is what the US Army did for me put me on TDRL, no exams for 5 years (THEY BLAME ME) mind you I have been repeatedly hospitalized for everything Bipolar Disorder, Cancer, etc. in a VA hospital but the Govt. says they didn't know where I was(RIGHT sounds like and excuse to me). so basically the military can violate all your rights and instead of protecting you they cover up their Shit and protect the ones that hurt Soldiers Mentally and Physically AND I CAN'T DO ANYTHING BECAUSE IT IS ME VS THE US MILITARY. Thanks to my country for destroying my life by sending me to war and now you help the poeple you sent me to fight but DONT HELP ME.

Help what do you do when as a soldier you are denied the right to have medical care needed to help you have a stable life, by being given a Written Direct Order from my chain of command that ordered me not to go to my Outside Doctor approved by the Military and the Hospital, which I requested because the Military Doctor was violating my HIPPA(a mental health doctor) and telling my Commander my business without my say so. And then the military refused to rate me in my MED Board for the disorder Completely ignoring the regulation about the 8 year rule and now they are trying to push it under the rug again. Well enough is enough I was raped in Iraq and when I tried to get help I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder and then to add injury to insult they tried to chapter me for Adjustment Disorder which I fought but the Military has just went in and changed the way they do things so they can screw Soldiers and Veterans I tried getting help (even wrote the President's Advisors and I can't even get a reply). Please someone help me because I choose to serve my Country and from what I can tell the ONLY WAY to get help from MY COUNTRY is to move to another COUNTRY or BE A BIG BUSINESS. Don't think just cause they make it look good on TV that the Military is taking care of Soldiers THEY ARE NOT and then yesterday I got told to file it with VA. So wake up America I am an African-American female, that was diagnosed with cancer in 2009, since coming back from Iraq I now have Bipolar Disorder, PTSD,Asthma, Severe Headaches, Allergies, Broke my wrist and 6 years later still have days were I can't even use my arm. this is what the US Army did for me put me on TDRL, no exams for 5 years (THEY BLAME ME) mind you I have been repeatedly hospitalized for everything Bipolar Disorder, Cancer, etc. in a VA hospital but the Govt. says they didn't know where I was(RIGHT sounds like and excuse to me). so basically the military can violate all your rights and instead of protecting you they cover up their Shit and protect the ones that hurt Soldiers Mentally and Physically AND I CAN'T DO ANYTHING BECAUSE IT IS ME VS THE US MILITARY. Thanks to my country for destroying my life by sending me to war and now you help the poeple you sent me to fight but DONT HELP ME.